YWCA (Young Womens Christian Association) Notes
YWCA Program:
~hotline: (408) 287-3000 ~Its free! 24 hours! ~Its comletely condifentioal ~Emotional help for victims Your Rights: ~Freedom of speach ~Freedom of choice ~Personal Space (arms length) --> Passive = body lenguage *polite, less awkward --> Agressive = self defence = whatever means to get away --> Assertive = direct communication ~When assulted the RIGHTS are taken away Sexual Assult: Rape ~Rape = forced sexual intercourse without sexual consent ~Unlawful Intercourse = illegal to have sex under age 18 ~Satutaory rape = person over 18 having sex with someone under 18 ~Illegal for sex under influence. Ex. drugs/alchohal ~Forms of weapons = threat, alone, blackmail ~It can happen anywhere ~Date rape = drugged on date (traquilizer) ~Molest = any sexual fonding of sexual parts ~Oral Copulation = forced oral sex ~Incent = sexual activity between family members ~Sodomy = anal sex without consent ~Visual rape = flashes |
Sexual Assult: Where, Who, Why WHERE: -night (dangerous neighborhood) -bar -abondon places -motels -parties -people's home *comfortable places #1. people's home #2. people's car WHO: -femail (victim) -male (prep) -strangers -someone you know *97% men *80~85% you know them WHY: -metal illness -past behaviors -anger/avenge -drugs and alchohal -desperate or can't help it *2% has mental illness *you CAN stop it! |
Generalization
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"Out of the Box" |
Help a Friend |
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~ Talk to them if they looked worried
~ Get them help! ~ Support their decision ~ Listen to them first ~ Tell them it’s NOT their fault ~ Believe in them, help them |
Relationships
-parents (Different age, power, respect, experience)
-teachers (")
-siblings
-friends
-parents (Different age, power, respect, experience)
-teachers (")
-siblings
-friends
Dating Relationships
Healthy: -respect -love -honesty -patience -understanding -communication -equality -intimacy -fun Relationship Cycle
Healthy: à“Love and flowers” àTension builds àCommunication (compromise or breakup) àCycle continues |
Unhealthy: -disrespect -unequal power -jealousy -anger -unfaithful -controlling -together too much -abusive (physical, sexual, emotional, verbal) Unhealthy:
à”Love and flowers” àTension àExplosion (abuse… can lead to death!) à”I’m sorry (your fault)” àSuck up àCycle continues |
Hard to leave unhealthy relationship
~ No one will love her (low self-esteem)
~ Gets gift
~ 5 times before successful
~ He might come after her
~ Isolated, hope, threat
~ Thinks it’s her fault
Help by:
~ Counseling
~ Hotline
~ Talk about options
~ Safety plan (restraining order)
~ Say “it’s NOT your fault!”
~ No one will love her (low self-esteem)
~ Gets gift
~ 5 times before successful
~ He might come after her
~ Isolated, hope, threat
~ Thinks it’s her fault
Help by:
~ Counseling
~ Hotline
~ Talk about options
~ Safety plan (restraining order)
~ Say “it’s NOT your fault!”
Harassment
Harassment From:
-apparent
-attractive
-disabilities
-race
-believes
-personality
-friends
-interests
-sexual orientation (gender)
-apparent
-attractive
-disabilities
-race
-believes
-personality
-friends
-interests
-sexual orientation (gender)
Types of Harassment
Verbal:
-judging
-swearing
-joke
-rumor
Physical:
-beatings
-touching unwanted
*90% of communication = body language
Emotional/mental:
-self esteem
Visual:
-flashing
-showing porn
-sexting
-starring
Verbal:
-judging
-swearing
-joke
-rumor
Physical:
-beatings
-touching unwanted
*90% of communication = body language
Emotional/mental:
-self esteem
Visual:
-flashing
-showing porn
-sexting
-starring
Degrees of harassment
Least severe
-verbal
-threats
-stalking
-beatings
-rape
-death
Most severe
WHY??? For POWER and CONTROL!!!
Least severe
-verbal
-threats
-stalking
-beatings
-rape
-death
Most severe
WHY??? For POWER and CONTROL!!!